When You Start Asking Who You Are Again: Therapy for Women Reclaiming Themselves
The Roles That Shaped Your Days Are Changing
Your kid is getting ready for college, a long relationship has come to an end, or you’re hitting middle age.
For years, being a good mom, wife, daughter and professional told you who you were and what needed doing next.
Those roles mattered, and you gave them everything you had.
Now one of those roles is loosening, and a question you never planned for keeps coming back: “Who am I again?”
Your Own Wants Have Been Waiting a Long Time
Somewhere along the way, your own ideas, wants and needs went quiet.
When someone asks what you’d like, the honest answer takes a while to find.
Relaxing feels so foreign that you talk yourself out of it.
That makes sense after so many years of worrying about everyone you love first.
Your Body Is Changing Along With Everything Else
For many women, perimenopause and menopause land right in the middle of all this.
It’s a real struggle that the people around you rarely seem to understand.
Feeling unlike yourself is understandable when your family, your relationships and your body are all shifting at once.
Get to Know Who You Are Now
Our work together starts with who you are today, after all the years you spent caring for everyone else.
From there, you decide who you want to be moving forward.
I use narrative therapy here, which means looking closely at the story you’ve been living by and writing what comes next in your own words.
Along the way, you’ll practice expressing yourself with ownership and authenticity.
Listen for the Part of You That’s Still There
Under all those roles is the small quiet voice inside that is still you, and mindfulness is how we practice hearing it.
It’s liberating when you decline to fix everyone and let the people you love handle their own things.
Grief has a place here too, since even a change you wanted means saying goodbye to a familiar version of your life.
I’m currently partway through training in women’s hormone wellness coaching, so what’s happening in your body belongs in our conversations as well.
Give Your Own Ideas, Wants and Needs Room Again
As old habits loosen, your own ideas, wants and needs start getting time in your week.
You’ll find out what interests you now, and you’ll give it room.
The question “Who am I again?” starts collecting answers that sound like you.
Let This Be the First Need You Speak Up For
Reaching out for yourself is the first act of speaking up for your own needs.
Sign up for one of my free consults, where we’ll get to know each other and I’ll share how you can begin.
Call me at (626) 780-7158 or email strengththrubalance@gmail.com, and tell me what you want for yourself.
Let’s Get Started
Let’s get started in finding the balance between your struggles in life so that you can begin to feel the benefits of creating and nurturing the strength within you.
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